A few friends and I recently got into a heated debate that made me pause and think: how easily we misinterpret stories based on our personal biases and perspectives.
It all started with one of my favorite stories – “Adufe & the Lion’s Mane.” It’s a beautiful tale that highlights the richness of our Yoruba and African storytelling traditions. Yet, when a young woman read it, her first question was:
“Why did Adufe have to win her husband’s heart – why not the other way around?”
A fair question. And honestly, it’s one that probably crosses many readers’ minds. That question inspired this reflection.
The truth is, stories are mirrors – and what we see often depends on where we’re standing. “Adufe & the Lion’s Mane” isn’t about reinforcing gender roles or stereotypes. It’s about human courage, love, and perseverance – universal themes that go beyond gender.
Adufe’s journey is one of strength, patience, and emotional intelligence. She faces daunting challenges, seeks wisdom from her mother, and persists until she reaches her goal – not through manipulation or submission, but through grace, courage, and selflessness.
This story, written by the incredible Adedayo (Makinde) Adeniyi, has sparked heartfelt conversations – between friends, families, and even across cultures. It also brings to light an often-overlooked aspect of our tradition – a positive, grounded view of the babalawo (traditional priest) and his role in community healing.
So why should such a powerful story be reduced to a gender debate? Why should Adufe’s resilience be seen as submission, instead of what it truly is – strength?
Because ultimately, this isn’t just a story about a woman – it’s a story about a person who chose love over resentment, persistence over pride, and action over complaint. She didn’t wait for change; she became the change.
Even if the roles were reversed, the lessons would remain the same:
- True love takes patience.
- Growth requires humility.
- And consistency – not one big moment – is what truly transforms us.
Like water carving through stone, Adufe’s quiet strength reminds us that gentleness and persistence can move mountains.
It’s also a quiet tribute to the women in our lives – mothers, sisters, daughters – who love deeply, endure patiently, and teach us what it means to be strong without losing softness.
If you haven’t read it yet, “Adufe & the Lion’s Mane” is available for free on the Kunku App (Google Play and iTunes). You can also watch it come to life on screen via Youtube:
Let it remind you that every good story holds a truth deeper than its surface – if only we look beyond our biases.
This month, we’re hosting the Story Circle – a space for stories that bridge culture, ethics, and emotion. Together, let’s celebrate storytelling that unites us, challenges us, and reminds us of our shared humanity. You also get a chance to submit your story and get published with us for free on the Kunkuapp!
Article first published on Onefirm.